Your Love Life affected by your Dog?

Love life and your dog

Why Dogs Get in the Way

Some dogs are indifferent to physical interactions between people but others stare, bark or try to break up or get in the middle of things. And though sometimes this isn't a problem, many pet owners are looking for ways to keep their dogs from objecting.

So why do some dogs react so strongly? There are a number of possible reasons. First, closeness between people can confuse a dog. Hugs, for instance, are abnormal in the canine world and can be viewed by dogs as threatening. Dogs may also view intimacy as play, which means they want to play, too.

Then there’s the dog’s personality. Certain breeds, like herding and guard dogs, are likely to be on high alert and perceptive of even minute changes in the environment. These dogs may react to anything out of the ordinary or suspicious (like hugging, cuddling, kissing and more). Other dogs take on the job simply from lack of activity and a need for something to focus on. Finally, some dogs learn that their bossy behavior works to get what they consider to be an uncomfortable situation to end.

Is It Jealousy?

As one client told me: “We have three dogs interrupting if we even sit too close. If we hug, we have one that gets between us and jumps up and down begging to be held.”

This can be a kind of jealousy. It can be upsetting for a dog when something he wants, like affection, is in jeopardy because attention is focused on someone else. In response, some dogs use attention-getting behaviors to disrupt the situation. But even negative reactions from their owners, like picking up and moving the dog or scolding, are viewed as a reward for their antics, as any attention can be better than none at all.

How to Change Your Dog’s Behavior

For dogs who are aggressive or overly anxious around intimacy, these situations are best addressed by a veterinarian, who can offer in-depth behavior modification using positive reinforcement training.But if your dog is interrupting your sex life in a nonthreatening, but still annoying manner, here are some strategies to help dissipate the conflict.

1.Give your dog an escape route. Though you may enjoy cuddling in bed with your pet, for moments of human intimacy, remove the dog. Train him to relax in a separate area, like a crate or dog bed or in another room. Or simply give your dog a way out. “We’ve opted to make sure the door is always open, so they can have a solid exit strategy,” one owner says.

2. Institute a “no furniture” rule. Teach your dog to move off furniture, such as the couch or bed, when asked. Then, on a romantic night, you can tell the dog to stay off the furniture in a non-confrontational manner. Direct the dog to his own resting spot instead and reward him for following directions.

3.Keep him busy. If your dog appears restless with your nighttime physical shenanigans, make your ‘busy time’ a busy time for your dog as well. Provide stuffed food puzzles or chew toys to keep him occupied.

4.Ignore bad behavior. If your pooch acts out or barks to get attention, ignore unwanted behavior and reward calm. Though barking may be more intense initially, when previously successful efforts to distract you no longer work, the dog's response will soften. Redirect and reward his focus when he’s relaxing or contentedly occupied with something acceptable, like a toy.

5.Do some role playing. If your dog is an uncomfortable witness to gestures of affection, like hugging and kissing, change the association by setting up pretend scenarios. Break up the interaction to a level the dog easily tolerates, such as lightly touching with one outstretched arm with both people facing forward. Reward calm behavior, especially relaxation behaviors, like going to his mat or bed. Over time, make the scenario resemble the real event, touching with both arms, turning toward one another and getting closer to each other. Or, with kissing your romantic partner, begin with just orienting to face one another. Then, lean toward each other. With kisses, start with only a light, momentary kiss and add length only as the dog happily anticipates a reward instead of rushing to react.

Until your dog has been conditioned to be comfortable around your public displays of affection, keep the dog out of view to prevent him from becoming upset and continuing unwanted behavior.


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